The Art of Flirting

Your approach.

One should approach the other at a closer proximity. If there is no approach, there is no possibility of a contact. One would initiate in a natural way. For example, a woman is seated on a bar, a man can stand beside her and perhaps order a drink. If a man is seated on a couch, the woman can seat beside him.

Read the signs.

Once have been approached, looked for a sign if one accommodates his/her presence. Read the body language if there are signs of accommodation like slight nods, a glance, eye contact, looking up from a seat, or moving on a seat to make room. Overlooking your presence is a sign of lack of interest. If this is the case, try to regroup and try another approach. If it works, you are now going one step higher.

The conversation.

Initiate some topic that will follow a casual conversation. Engage in a mild verbal exchange that covers impersonal and general matters, and having a conversation doesn’t necessary meant to be as a way of sharing insights about life or to determine the compatibility between you. The verbal exchange between has a purpose of developing further contact.

For example, you might ask from “may I borrow your ballpen?”, say “I like the way you smile”, and further compliment, “you look like a hollywood star” progressively. But without a verbal response, there would be a less chance for you to take another step. Assume that you’ve got the responses. Then its time for body language.

The body language.

Body language starts over a period of time, it would begin by turning physically to one another, probably towards facing each other. This gesture is your goal. It may take minutes to hours, to weeks or months, to achieve this. Without achieving this goal, there wouldn’t be any good reasons to go on. So if someone turns back to you, it would be probably a waste of time. But if everything goes well…

The physical contact.

On one way or another, the woman or man may touch the other in a light way like a slight pat on the back. For example, both may accidentally brush their hands against each other while reaching for a food or drink. In a split second , these glancing touches may end but continues to repeat over time. If everything goes well with the couple, then they would be able to step in to dating and relationship. Flirting ends when a relationship starts, so start flirting.

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