Should you get back together with your ex?

A break-up is what is at the other side of happily ever after. Sadly most of us get to taste this bitter pill before we end up in that kingdom far far away. That was one bad combination of metaphors. Anyway.

Break-ups of course leave the inevitable creation of the Ex. It’s not really that much news. Most relationships are bound to end eventually. This could be because of many reasons. Infidelities, difference in interest, compatibility lost, name it. But sometimes, the ex never really leaves us. There always seem to be the chance of getting back together.

So do you? Well personally I believe in second chances. You know as long as it doesn’t deal with mass murderers but seriously. Relationships take a lot of work to maintain. For people like us, who have been constantly searching for an ideal one, there aren’t a lot of chances for trials and errors. So it’s natural to want to take another shot at a relationship gone wrong. I mean you do try more than once for everything else right?

But of course this all depends on personal choice. Some people may feel that rebuilding a failed relationship is too much of a mess and it would be more beneficial if they could just move on to another one. There will still be a lot of issues to be resolved, problems to be addressed and insecurities to be dealt with before everything runs smoothly once more. Hardly worth the effort, one could say.

Bearing this in mind, I could say that getting back together with your ex takes a lot of patience and understanding. It isn’t for the hasty and inflexible because if that’s the case then it just wouldn’t work out.

Here are some reasons why you should get back together. Firstly as I said before, everyone deserves a second chance. If you were both new to the idea of a committing relationship then it doesn’t hurt to have another go at it now that you have a perspective on the things that could go wrong. Another is that it’ll help you mature more when you’re trying again. Learning from your mistakes will help you a lot in setting your priorities and goals when it comes to relationships.

Of course there are also reasons to treat a rekindling of relationship with an ex as a line that shouldn’t be crossed. One is that, you have to make sure that both of you go through personal reflection and transformation in order to make it work. The problems that ripped you both apart before is not gone and in time you will face them again. If you are not ready, then you’re just setting yourself up for major disappointed the second time around. A lot of people also feel that getting back with your ex will just unearth emotional baggage better left buried. Remember that in a way, getting back with your ex isn’t moving on. It’s more of a stepping back and trying again.

So in the end, the decision is up to you. Ask yourself if you’re ready for the consequences that getting back together with your ex entails. The risks may not all be pleasant but as with every romantic relationship, the possible rewards will be great.

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