Dating for single men can be a nerve-wrecking experience. Half of the time, you’re just feeling your way throughout your entire date. You’re sidestepping, being careful and most of the time guessing on what to do next.
So here is where we can help. You must know that there are certain things, material or otherwise, that you should bring or have when going out on a date. Having these things will greatly increase your chance of success when you are dating.
Men should always bring an appealing style when going out on a date. This doesn’t mean wearing crisp suits. Or sporting the latest high fashion. Nor does it mean putting on the most expensive clothes. No, appeal should lie on how you look with the clothes on, not just the clothes themselves. This is important to remember because most single men out there always get the wrong idea of having an appealing style.
Clothes should give you comfort and self confidence. So dress in clothes that will make you “FEEL” appealing not just because some model poses in it on billboards. No, just make sure that it’s clean and appropriate and you’re all set. If you feel good sporting your style, then your date will see confidence and security from you. And that my friend is very sexy indeed.
Stop being so damn nervous all the time! Single women out there don’t go dating just to search for the perfect nervous wreck. They want to date the confident and relaxed guy, not the guys who sweat way too much. Dating is a very exciting and fun venture. Enjoy it! Have fun and be yourself. Women respond to men who are more like themselves rather than those who struggle to pretend like someone they’re not. Be confident with who you are as a person and your date will immediately see your amazing personality. If she still doesn’t like you after that, then at least you’re sure that she isn’t worth the time.
Yes, gifts are also important to bring on dates. Especially if it is your first. But be creative as well. Don’t go for the old types like chocolates and flowers. Choose gifts that carry significance for your date. Going with the usuals will have her thinking that you’re boring and lacking in imagination. Stereotypical in fact. So make sure to give her something different. A book that she said she liked in passing, or an album of a genre of music that she mentioned she love. This will earn you more brownie points because it shows that you pay close attention to what she says and is genuinely interested in her.
The “man” aura
Most single men forget to have this on dates. The result? They become an honorary girlfriend but never a boyfriend. Dating happens between a man and a woman so each role is reserved for only one. Play the part of the man when you’re out on a date. Be assertive, in control, be the one who takes charge. Be decisive and firm, don’t be a pushover. She’ll think you’re weak and insecure if you don’t. Don’t expect your date to lead. That responsibility lies on you. You’re a man for crying out loud, so act like one!
Don’t be an open book just after the first few dates. This is never good. You immediately eliminate the need for getting to know you further. Be mysterious and an enigma instead. I’m not saying be cold and indifferent, no. I’m telling you to pick carefully what you share. This will help keep her interest in you because she knows that you still have more to offer. And she’ll be dying to know what those are.
Sense of humor
Another vital must have. As I said before, dating is fun so be sure to make it so! Don’t be so serious all the time. Dating isn’t work, in fact it’s more of a game. So lighten up and relax. If you’re so uptight all the time, then you’re going to send your date to boredom overdrive. If you’re free, casual and able to effectively crack a joke on the other hand, then she’ll be enjoying herself as well.