Making an Online Dating Profile: Common Pitfalls

Below are the things to avoid when writing an online dating profile:

1. List of laudries.

Each one of us has its own interests that we would like to publish, but not necessarily each and every bit of things should be put on your profile. You can alternatively put four to five things that are most important, and such that is sufficient to share a part of you.

2. List of things to shop.

Like the first common mistake stated above, a list of demands which are likely the most important is a priority. You can put up a list which can be met in reality, like things that you and the prospect you think have also meet.

3. Words of lies.

People hate lies and liars . A lot of people lie about their age, marital status, income, profession, etc. The lies inflicts deep wounds, and lifetime scars on both partner in a later part. So avoid lies, be honest.

4. Lots of information.

Avoid spilling every detail about yourself in your profile. Highlight everything that you wanted to discussed about with your partner later. If lots of information were put, it would be hard for the both of you to find things to talk about.

Besides this, some mystery about you would put excitement and curiosity that would help put strength in your relationship. Time also will help in finding more things both to each one of you.

5. Bragging.

Too much proud in yourself would drive everybody else away from you. But you might ask how would you write something positive about yourself without giving the impression of being arrogant? The keyword would be by being “objective” instead of being “subjective”. Try to avoid saying things like: “I am good looking” or “I am an executive”, and so on.

6. Too common phrases and cliches.

Phrases like “fine dining” and “take long walks on a moonlit beach” would unlikely to get a response from someone. It may give others the impression that you are unimaginative or boring. Instead, write something that you truly enjoy and at the same time will make you stand out from the rest of the crowd.

7. Words of a loser.

Such examples are listed below that should be avoided:

a: “I don’t want to be alone anymore”. These are the words of desperation and it would only give responses from manipulative people.

b: “Ask for more info”. It would take time to get on the whole reply process. They may also think that you are lazy to write on a content about yourself.

c: “I am honest”. Liars wouldn’t even admit this, so there’s no point in writing this.

d: “I’m not really good at these things”. Only a few people would consider themselves good in writing a profile, so this words are nothing but an unmotivated filler texts.

e: “I couldn’t believe I am doing this”. Well in fact, you’re doing it. So get real.

8. Shouting.

Never try to type in all capital letters, it is like you are shouting to your readers. It would also annoy them and hurt their eyes from reading it. This is considered shouting in the internet.

9. Sexual hints.

Sexual talks should never be opened at the middle of your acquaintance relationship. Save it on the later part when both of you are already comfortable with each other. You may intend it as a cute remark but they may receive it the wrong way.

10. Criticizing former relationship.

Almost everyone has been through rough relationships and didn’t turn out well. So don’t whine and complain about your past relationship, an online profile isn’t the right place to vent that out.

11. Unknown words.

Don’t write vocubularies that you don’t really know. It is much better to read simple personal profiles, and with conversational-style of writing that brings out your personality.

12. Being negative.

Highlight your positive aspects and trash out the negatives behind.